Ive realized that where I live and my living surroundings have a huge impact on how well I close.
Right now I have 2 roommates, one of whom is very experienced with women and pulls on a regular basis. The other roommate is the absolute opposite. He is about 3 years older than me and to be honest, im not sure if he has ever had a sexual relationship, EVER. The majority of his friends are exactly like him. I really don't mind spending the occasional night out with these guys, they do have their redeeming qualities, but for the most part they are all chumps. Me and roomie #1 are planning our AFC intervention with roomie #2, don't worry. :)
I also currently live in the burbs.' Being that my most frequented spots are downtown or near the area, for a girl to come home with me, it takes a very large commitment on her part. There are actually some pros to this, but im not convinced they outweigh or are equal to the cons.
For example, if you are brining a girl back to your place all the way out in the burbs, it means that she has almost certainly committed to sleeping with or at least gettin down in some fashion with you that night.
On the other hand. . .
The logistical roadblocks are ridiculous! Lets say she is not quite ready to commit to getting down with you that night. In that case a hike out to the burbs where she will most definitely be spending the night is a deal breaker. In this case, living within earshot of your social venues of choice can dramatically improve your close rate.
Another variable is the roommates.
One thing I have realized is that living with roommates leaves a lot of things out of your control. For example, when I come home some nights I am not sure if my roommates are going to be asleep or having friends over getting drunk. Some situations can create a state break that I would preferably not want to deal with. Anyone living in a similar situation can in some ways relate to this. Anything that is going to make the girl uncomfortable needs to be nixed, and let me tell ya, there have been a few situations with my roommates (even though I still love em) that have made girls uncomfortable.
I have deduced it is really about the most control over the situation as you possibly can, creating smooth bounces that maintains the state of the interaction without any surprises or uncontrollable variables on your end.
The ideal situation would be to live in your own pimped out pad, near the action. But of course, its not a perfect world and you have to deal with the cards you have in front of you. One thing I can say is: With all of these logistical challenges, if you are still pulling, you must be doing something right.
ps. I am planning on making my move this summer. :)
