This should be a no brainer by now.
But we all know where it leads, its called the friend zone! and as everyone knows, the friend zone sucks.
Ive known for awhile now how to stay out of the friend zone. Its all about escalation and correctly framing the interaction, Basically dominating and leading the interaction where you want it to go.
Unfortunately, I let it happen to me, again.
I turned into the crying shoulder, and it gave me a feeling I have not had in a long time. It felt really funny because it reminded me of the old me and before I realized it, it was too late and I was kicking myself for it. The reason it happened is I let the girl lead the relationship, and although there was sexual attraction to begin with she didn't know that taking the interaction down this path would lead to something strictly platonic. The feeling I ended up having was frustration, knowing that I messed up. But it's a learning experience. I let this happen, its all on me, so remember: You should be the one in control.
Sunday, June 29, 2008
Monday, June 23, 2008
Sunday, June 8, 2008
The dam is breaking.
Over the past month or so I have been with out cable, or any TV at all for that matter. Now there is a reason for this, and that is I havnt gone back to my old place to pick my TV up yet. Strange as it may sound, being without an entertainment source like TV has actually improved my game. It has forced me to rely on other people for my entertainment. I has helped me eliminate my internal excuses for not calling a girl (or anxiety about calling a girl) because if I don't, ill sit in my apartment alone and board.
My life has kind of exploded in front of me this past weekend. I hooked up with a girl on thursday night, then another on Friday night. Saturday night was kind of mixed. At first I was rolling like a champ then my stupid AA reared its head again. Oh well, I can be proud of at least half the night. Then today I had a simi day date at the mall which involved shopping talking and a little lunch. I can't quite figure this girl out. She seems like she is totally into me but there's something that also tells me she could be a major flake/tease. I think the best move in this situation is to just plow forward and let things unfold as they should. I set up another get-together with her tomorrow before she works but just got a text from her saying she won't make it. It is for sure a flake message but understandable. She has to go way out of her way to come over to my place tomorrow before work and for a quick get together I don't think I would want to do that either even if I really really liked a girl. Anyways, she's still cool in my book, im just gonna have to keep my eye on her.
Life is good. For now anyways, I have more options in terms of social life and women then I think I have ever had. One guy who has been very influential in my life recently who I don't think I have talked about is JS. Or so I will call him for now. JS has taken me under his wing and has shown me directly and indirectly how to create a great social circle and be the type of person people gravitate towards. I am in a way taking what I am seeing, analyzing it, and turning it into an explainable method. From what I have seen, being a person people want to be around is really all about value. It is about being a confident leader who gives value to everyone around him and makes them feel better about themselves. It is also about talking to everyone and meeting everyone you can. At the same time however, you have to be humble about the impact you have on people because with such a strong appearance any form of bragging or anything like that will come off as arrogant or asshole-ish. Of course im still learning more, but in the process really enjoying myself.
rock'n roll
My life has kind of exploded in front of me this past weekend. I hooked up with a girl on thursday night, then another on Friday night. Saturday night was kind of mixed. At first I was rolling like a champ then my stupid AA reared its head again. Oh well, I can be proud of at least half the night. Then today I had a simi day date at the mall which involved shopping talking and a little lunch. I can't quite figure this girl out. She seems like she is totally into me but there's something that also tells me she could be a major flake/tease. I think the best move in this situation is to just plow forward and let things unfold as they should. I set up another get-together with her tomorrow before she works but just got a text from her saying she won't make it. It is for sure a flake message but understandable. She has to go way out of her way to come over to my place tomorrow before work and for a quick get together I don't think I would want to do that either even if I really really liked a girl. Anyways, she's still cool in my book, im just gonna have to keep my eye on her.
Life is good. For now anyways, I have more options in terms of social life and women then I think I have ever had. One guy who has been very influential in my life recently who I don't think I have talked about is JS. Or so I will call him for now. JS has taken me under his wing and has shown me directly and indirectly how to create a great social circle and be the type of person people gravitate towards. I am in a way taking what I am seeing, analyzing it, and turning it into an explainable method. From what I have seen, being a person people want to be around is really all about value. It is about being a confident leader who gives value to everyone around him and makes them feel better about themselves. It is also about talking to everyone and meeting everyone you can. At the same time however, you have to be humble about the impact you have on people because with such a strong appearance any form of bragging or anything like that will come off as arrogant or asshole-ish. Of course im still learning more, but in the process really enjoying myself.
rock'n roll
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